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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm a 40 year old married mom of two early elmentary school age kids.  I want to make mom friends.  I've tried everything, and nothing works.  I've met a lot of moms, but none of them wants to be my friend.  How it usually goes is I'll meet a mom at a PTA volunteer event, or at a family-friendly event, or at a meetup group, chat for a bit, invite them out for coffee, and we meet for coffee.  The meetup usually goes well and then....crickets.  I never hear from them again and when I reach out a few weeks later to follow up and see how they're doing, I usually don't hear back or they'll be polite but distant, making it clear they're not interested in a friendship.

I don't know what I'm doing wrong to be so unlikeable.  I'm married (15 years), work full-time, have a really interesting career, am a good conversationalist, and try to get to know them/express interest.  Most of the time they don't seem that interested in getting to know me.  Like I'll ask, what are you guys doing this summer and they don't ask what we're doing, just blather on and on about their summer plans.

I work out at a small gym and that has not let to any friendships either.  I am also in a hobby group and also have not made friends that way.

The moms of my kids' friends have made it clear they are not interested in a friendship--they will bring their kids over for playdates when I set them up, but have never invited us and don't stay to chat, they just drop off and leave, or send their husbands to drop off.

Where can I meet mom friends or just friends for me?  My kids are in first and third grade.

I am chronically lonely and feel like no one likes me or wants to be my friend, and it really sucks.[/quote]

It’s absolutely not personal. I think most just feel tired at the end of the day or week and they don’t feel a need to add to their schedule.  If they have one or two friends they’re really close to, it may feel enough. [/quote]

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