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[quote=Anonymous]Sorry, I'm the SAHP who replied and was a bit off-focus.  I didn't read that your spouse was working full time, too.

I still think that a family discussion is in order.  You both need to come to an agreement (even if it is to agree to disagree) about priorities.  The truth is, the house needs work, typically X minutes a day and X hours a week.  Work also requires X hours a day and week.  Children, family, and couples need time together, too.  You do need to get your priorities down and negotiate from a position of mutual respect.

I did and now do work, as well, and I understand that my husband's salary floats us.  That being said, he still does a tremendous amount of domestic work (cooking, technology, some of the finances, bedtime) on top of that simply because these things need to be done.  When his work gets hectic, he gets more slack.  I also get ladies' nights off now and then, and we also afford each other an evening to ourselves (I mean, alone) so we can do whatever the heck we want without having to answer to or negotiate with the other.  This is the system that helps us blow off steam and keep things running smoothly emotionally.  :)

Anyway, the point is life requires certain things, and there are only so many hours in the day and week.  You need to think of each other as being a team.  If laundry is done at night, then you both fold while watching TV.  Or you hire someone (you know there are laundromats where you can bring bags of laundy and pick them up the next day, right?).  Anyway, money doesn't afford you the right to pile work from your plate onto the lower wage earner.  It's really about teamwork, priorities, and time and keeping the family unit happy and healthy.[/quote]

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