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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I left a demanding career to SAH almost ten years ago, and I’m now considering going back to work in a lower-pressure field related to my old career.

Although I’m excited about the possible change, I feel like I keep having casual conversations with others that suggest if I’m going back to work I must somehow regret having stayed home. Which isn’t true, at all. I treasure the years I had at home, but my kids are older now and I still have a long life ahead of me. How would you respond to someone who suggests I must regret the last ten years? Or worse, thinks that because I’m going back to work it’s suddenly ok to belittle SAHMs to me? Does anyone else have experience with this? It puts me in such an awkward situation.[/quote]

Ugh, no experience other than being a mom myself and seeing judgment no matter WHAT choices someone makes in this regard. I would just try to cut the conversation off and say something like, "Yes, it has been great being home and I'm also looking forward to the next life phase too. I feel really fortunate."

It really is all about jealousy and/or insecurity.[/quote]

Also this. Moms can’t win. Don’t try and don’t think you are a specific victim here. People are really invested in making the “best” choices when it comes to their kids and family and some people can’t help letting it bled in to their conversations with others. I just had another mom tell me she "couldn't imagine leaving her baby at daycare" knowing full well that was the choice i had made and it was super hard to bit my tongue and not fire back some of tge choices she was making that i couldn't imagine but honestly it doesnt help anyone to add on to that kind of thinking. [/quote]

It goes both ways. I returned to full time work after sah for 10 years. Just yesterday, my young colleague essentially lectured me on the benefits of daycare. I'm glad that she's found something that works for her, but there is no need to "mom-splain" to me, especially when five minutes earlier I told her that chose to stay at home with my kids during the early years. It shows a slight lack of EQ on her part, but I didn't counter her. I smiled through her explanation and  moved on. [/quote]

I’m the PP you are responding to and my point was that it goes both ways and lots of other ways. This woman has a nanny, which she thinks is “best”. I don’t care about that but I disagree with other choices. Not that it matters what I think so I nod and keep my mouth closed.[/quote]

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