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[quote=Anonymous]OP here- well this just keeps getting messier.

DH (aka DS1) had a call with his sisters (DD1 & DD2) today to check in and see how things were going. Youngest brother  (Ds2) declined to join.  It looks like there may be more debts than expected (Christmas loan from bank, store credit accounts etc). And the balance of the checking account will go down because MIL received a social security check just before she died. So that will need to be paid back.

Executor (DD1) hasn’t opened probate yet because she doesn’t have the receipt from the funeral home. They were filing to get paid directly from the life insurance.

DH was expecting the call to be about what had to happen next about gathering info, notifying people of death etc. But executor has proposed that she change how the life insurance is paid out to go to the estate so that the car loan can be paid off.  DH said he didn’t think that was possible after death, so executor then suggested each sibling privately pay their share of the life insurance to pay off the car loan before probate starts so that things are cleaner.

I feel so bad for DH, he wasn’t expecting that at all. The life insurance money is likely to be 3k at most per child, so these aren’t huge dollar amounts. He was thinking that it would cover his travel costs and part of the money we lost when we cancelled our spring break trip for the funeral.

But now DH is dug in on the principal.  He just noticed that our kids are the ones who aren’t in the will at all. Before this I had just assumed he wasn’t bothered by that.  But now he’s bothered.

How do I talk him down? I had shared the comments from the PP about being ready to set aside the land because it would likely cause hard feelings no matter what.  I think that was helpful.  But this feels different.[/quote]

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