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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We  are going to retire at 70 - DH and I both have cerebral jobs. We are going to sell our house and move in with our son - he and his wife have an inlaw apartment that is a perfect size for what DH and I want in an older stage of life. Their house is in a great area with tons to do, good hospitals and we are active people who hopefully won't have mobility issues. Our two DD's live ten minutes and a half hour from DS so we'll be pretty close to all the kids. [/quote]

Gosh sounds enmeshed.  Anyone else have tips without mental health baggage?[/quote]

Not sure why you think that. We'll have our own entrance, and own kitchen and living space. It's like an apartment that's attached to his house. We get along very nicely with all our kids and we all enjoy spending time together. Dh and I have couple friends and our own friends. We each volunteer and have hobbies. We'll have plenty of time for all that plus for our kids. Right now they rent out the apartment. When we are a year or six months away from moving in, they're going to do some upgrades. [/quote]

I’m so curious to know how the DIL feels about this and whose idea this was! This is super crazy close, I can’t imagine doing this to my kids. Do you not think about their marriage or privacy? [/quote]

She and DS both suggested it to us. She seemed enthusiastic. She's mentioned it several times since in a positive way. I am not "doing this to my kids." My kids OFFERED this to DH and I. We will have as much privacy as we all want.[/quote]

I’m sorry people here are being so annoying. Geez. People are spending more time trashing you than answering the questions![/quote]

Thanks - it's okay. We're confident in our plans. We have great communication and respect for each other in our family. My guess is the people who think it sounds horrible are assuming we don't all get along well. [/quote]

I haven’t posted on the thread before. I have a great relationship with my parents, but having them in an in-law suite or apartment would feel stifling. They live 15 minutes away and that is perfect. They have their independent lives and we have ours, and we meet several times a week. If DH and I have work travel or late nights, they stay over to help. Too much togetherness and dependency would ruin our relationship IMO. Just a caution for you. It may be better for them to keep renting out their apartment while you find another home nearby.[/quote]

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