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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]People are usually self-righteous about it.[/quote]

I had two unmedicated births and am not self-righteous about it.  I also don’t volunteer this information unless asked.  I feel judged for not having been induced or gotten an epidural, if anything.[/quote]
I had an unmedicated birth, a fact I don't volunteer.  I've heard people talk about how women who don't get pain meds are stupid, martyrs, anti-science, masochistic.  It was pretty offensive.

I genuinely do not care what anyone else does, but I agree there is some bad discourse that paints it like a matter of willpower, or a competition, or like there is a "right" way to give birth, that I find obnoxious (even though I did it the supposedly right way).  But it goes both ways.  I think women should be given accurate information about the risks, benefits, and side effects, and make the choice that works the best for them. [/quote]

Agree with last statement wholeheartedly.

I think the reaction you describe from people who had pain meds is mainly defensive, a reaction to be characterized as selfish or stupid for pursuing interventions.  That doesn't make those defensive statements right or excused.  It's pretty awful to have another woman tell you that because you had an epidural, you are selfish and put yourself ahead of your baby.  What a terrible and untrue thing to say.

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