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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We didn't. We taught them to use it correctly, somewhat monitor their activities, and taught them healthy limits.

We learned from my sister's and BIL's mistakes with their oldest (twins). They allowed no smartphones (flip, dumb phones only) and no social media. No computers or tablets were allowed in their rooms. Electronics got locked up at night. Video game systems were for weekends only and very limited. They were also locked up between uses.

Both basically flunked out of college. Twin 1 was put on academic probation and then after failing to maintain a C average the second semester, asked to complete 2 semesters at a junior or community college with a C average to be allowed to continue at the university. He ended up failing at community college as well. Twin 2 did so poorly in his first fall semester that the college advised him against continuing there in Spring because even if he was a rockstar his 2nd semester, it'd be a miracle for him to get a C average. Both flunked out because they had unlimited access to their computers, tablets, phones, and video games. They were unable to regulate themselves.

Twin 2 did finally graduate college this past May. He took 3 years off and then did 2 years at a community college before being accepted to GMU. Twin 1 has zero desire to do college. He works a minimum wage job and spends the rest of his time gaming.

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Interesting. I'm the parent of college students (and a high schooler), and the ones I know who are struggling as young adults due to social media/phone/gaming addictions or heavy use are the ones who have always had unlimited access, phones in rooms overnight, etc. [/quote]

I would think that too, but I can see it both ways. It's probably a 50/50 split.

Kids who are kept away from it entirely throughout high school could end up like the PP twin nephews, or they just continue to show no interest in it since they never got hooked as teens.

Or, as you point out, those who have always had unlimited access to tech and gotten by in high school, can't regulate themselves when the stakes and rigor in college are much higher. As always with kids, there's no one-size-fits-all answer.[/quote]

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