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[quote=Anonymous]Well, whether he is gay or not, you are not in an emotionally or sexually fulfilling  marriage and you should be seeing a therapist to explore your feelings about that. It may not matter whether he is gay or just repressed, in the end, if your marriage isn't functional.

OP, you have kids? How old? do you work? do you feel like you two function as a couple in other ways? are you happy parenting together? do you have a strong social life? Family stuff? What are the issues that are most important to you in this regard? is it sex? is it emotional connection?  Is it emotional honesty between you two? are you affectionate with each other?

FWIW, I was involved for several years with someone similar--he always attracted gay men but was kind of homophobic in a way that suggested to me something was made uncomfortable in him by getting hit on so much, and he was, with me anyway, sexually and emotionally very repressed. Ultimately, I ended it because I felt so lonely in the relationship. My conclusion was that the deep emotional and physical repression was probably from a deep inner conflict about intimacy, and could very well be related to being gay and not being able to tolerate/acknowledge it and thus not being able to be intimate with anyone-- but might have had other roots not related to sexual orientation. In the end it didn't matter. I felt immense relief when I moved on (but I was not married with kids). FWIW, he's now 50 and unmarried still.....
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