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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I finally blocked her on my cell and asked my DH to avoid her calls/texts. It's been a long time coming and it feels good but scary because even at 36 I'm terrified of her.

I've also cut most ties with my abusive brother and this family. My brother molested me for years and my mother knew. I kept the peace for a long time but I'm done.

We tried for a long time to keep up appearances and just have some sort of relationship with her even though she failed at every aspect of being a parent. Ironically calling to tell her I'm working thanksgiving could we send her something ( trying to avoid her screaming at me) and then instead of sorry you're working it's so I'm all alone on Thanksgiving. A holiday that only happens if DH and I plan on cooking or taking her out. She has never planned anything. When we ask if she has plans for Christmas and she says not sure we say you're welcome to join us. And we get screamed at that we treat her like a dog. The guilt trip for doing absolutely nothing starts. I broke. I've been feeling shitty like I don't have any family of my own. My father died last year ( he left when I was little, no relationship there)

It felt good to block her. I've talked a big talk about cutting her out but this so the first time I've done something about it
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OP, I feel sisterly solidarity with you. I'm 34 years old and working up the nerve to cut ties with my mom next week. Cold turkey, over. I've been meditating and Journaling and preparing. She sabotaged every relationship I was in, was jealous of me since I was a little girl, resented any victory I had and tried to steal it from me, and made me her loyal hound instead of an independent daughter. Meanwhile, she never showed any loyalty to me.

I hate her and will dance on her grave when the b---h is dead.

This is still a hard process though. You and I are doing the brave thing. Love you.[/quote]

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