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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I just came back from a birthday party that my 4.5 year old son was invited to. There were 3 other boys from his preschool class who seemed to get on really well together while my son just played alone. At one point the three boys were playing in the bounce house and wouldn't let him in, saying it's a secret club. Then I was pushing my son on the swing and one of them came up to him and said "Can you get off the swing? It's mine and I want it back" I feel a little heartbroken that this is going to be a glimpse of the future, that there's something weird about him that they pick up on and exclude him. My son isn't that interested in sports (maybe he's young and that can change) and still sounds like a baby when he speaks (he's in speech) and these other kids look and sound a lot older, but are the same age. I feel so sad! He's my second and my first son was always so social and magnetic with other kids so this is a new feeling. Anything I should do? Should I talk to the teacher?  I am just so sad after watching them together.[/quote]

You should have told the 4 yr old off.

[b]"No. You are being mean and rude, Timmy. You are being bad by being unkind and horrible to your friends. You cannot have the swing because you also did not allow Larlo to play in the bounce house. Do you like be not included? Let this be your lesson. If you are mean to Larlo again, we will report to your school that you are being bad."  [/b]

If they run to mommy, then it is great because then you can tell the grown ups that the kids were being not inclusive.

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This is so over the top and weird.  Like parenting advice from a Chatbot.

OP the bounce house thing doesn't sound egregious, unless they kept your kid out for the whole party.  If it was one time, it was a game, and it doesn't sound targeted.  The kid asking for a turn on the swing doesn't sound rude at all - you can just say "we'll let you know when our turn is over" or ask your kid "do you want to give Timmy his turn now?"

Your kid is a little behind.  It's not the end of the world, and I agree with the PPs saying these three particular boys are not going to make or break his social prospects.  I'd also say you can take a step back from obsessing over whether the problem is that he's not enough into "boy" stuff like Superman or sports - I think it's much more likely that it's that he cannot communicate well yet.  Don't dress up a speech delay in gender norms.[/quote]

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