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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My DD hates me.  She is hostile with me, like yells back at me if I interact with her, unless she is asking me for something, and sometimes she is violent.  I never want to be around her.  She has been this way since age 2, now age 12.  Combative with me from the moment she wakes up, but not with others.   I am at the point today that I would consider sending her to live with an aunt or grandparent if they would take her because she clearly hates me.  Any other moms have this experience?  Any insights?  I tried therapy twice for her, but went nowhere.[/quote]

There is still time. Find another therapist and go more than twice. You quit after 2 times??? What were you expecting?

Schedule some time with just the two of you.

Do not do things for her if she is hateful and say why "No, I'm not driving you to Meet Sophie at the mall. I do not do things for people who (yells/curses/hits) me." And call her out in the moment ("You do not speak to me like that.") and disengage and deescalate. If it is really bad, she loses privileges: grounded, phone, activities, etc. She's treating you badly b/c you allow it. She's only 12 so, again, time to rein it in.

I would also stop looking at it as she "hates" you. That's taking it personally. There is something wrong for sure but there are many alternatives besides hating you. [/quote]

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