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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Nope. There might be a diagnosis somewhere in the mix, but not from what you’ve described, especially if he’s content with his life. I’d go with healthy, authentic, and self-actualized — in ways that most people chasing superficial external validations can only imagine.  [/quote]

ok.  so the failure to work towards home ownership, retirement, and having at least a life partner isn't something shameful?  not asking rhetorically. [/quote]

Nope, at least not in my opinion.  I’ll start by saying that the white, UMC, super competitive so called “American Dream” isn’t necessarily the healthiest way to live, and certainly not the only way to live.  If he’s able to maintain stable living situations for himself, not owning a home is not a “failure “.  Many people rent for all kinds of reasons — including some quite good ones. Not everyone has a life partner. Many women will outlive their husbands. Others maintain toxic relationships—primarily to avoid the supposed “shame” of being single. So, no shame there. There are risks, inconveniences and financial issues that might go along with his choices, but nothing shameful. I can’t comment on retirement issues without knowing more about his situation.

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To add, could you tell me what aspects of this you might view as “shameful “?  Is it because he’s male?  
I can imagine a lot of ways that his decisions could be not just neutral but laudable— but would like to understand your perspective. 
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I guess I imagine what if he was my father or husband.  But he is not.  He has no dependents or spouse to care for. [/quote]

Exactly.  He’s chosen what seems to be a healthy and satisfying life for himself. While there are likely some less than ideal aspects to his choices, that’s true of many lifestyles. [/quote]

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