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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here--I don't want the bully to get hurt physically, that's not what I meant. But what if the bully is a girl who spreads rumors and lies about another girl (not my kids' situation), would at some point the bully's friends realize that this person could turn and do the same thing to them at any second, and choose to stop hanging out with her. Or, like a pp said, people confront her about it so she doesn't just get away Scot free. I don't want them to get bullied. I want them to have consequences for their bullying. I said it wrong in my original post. [/quote]

I am still not understanding why you would care though. And ultimately I’d just wish all kids well and hope they have a nice life.

bullies are insecure or threatened in some way and so it’s best to just remember that and let go.[/quote]

Come on. Let's be honest here. Everyone who has ever been bullied or has had a child bullied has hoped that the bully would learn a lesson a change—whether that lesson is from their own parents, discipline from teachers or school admin, or other kids calling them out on their behavior. But there is a phrase, "Snitches get stitches" and that is the reason so many kids don't tell—they live in fear of the consequences.

There was a bully on my street who physically assaulted me and two other girls at the bus stop in jr. high (would do things like knock our books from our arms, smash our lunches, lift up our skirts, punch us in the breasts, and shove a stick into our crotches from behind (called it a "p***y detector"). He was always sneaking up and doing it so no one saw it (like just as I was on the lowest step to the bus and penned in with other kids, and suddenly my lunch would get yanked out of my arms and thrown and I'd have to scramble down and get it. The other girls would scatter out of fear, the other boys would laugh, and I missed the bus several times because I was afraid to stand at the bus stop with him (if enough other kids weren't there). I got in SO MUCH trouble for missing the bus, and yet I didn't tell my parents why. I was mortified about the "detector" thing and worried it would escalate (my dad would talk to his dad or go to the principal) and everyone would know how much he humiliated me.

I saw him at our 20-year reunion. He married the sweetest, goody-goody girl in our class and they have two daughters. I'd like to think he changed, for their sake. [/quote]

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