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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What about just being bored and wanting to have great sex again? [/quote]

I am sure that's a lot of it, but OP wants some admission that cheaters are evil and such and motivated by a super human drive to destroy people and also hate their kids because think of the children. [/quote]

A basic tenet of marriage - unless explicitly discussed otherwise - is forsaking all others.  To lie (continuously) to your spouse is a betrayal of trust, as is schtupping someone else.  You’re putting your spouse, your kids, and yourself at grave risk.  Heard about AP’s trying to hurt/kill the family of their lover?  Or their lover themselves?  Or the spouse of an AP doing so?

If your spouse finds out, there’s no coming back from that. Not to say you can’t have a marriage still, but it will never, ever be the same.  Your kids will look at you differently.  There is such tremendous risk to cheating that seems very underestimated.[/quote]

Technically true, although couples also pledge till death do us part and church marriages bring the Lord and all that anti divorce stuff into play.

Humans are messy and I guess I am not as surprised as you are that the biological drive to procreate in the most non monogamous way which has kept our species alive for a couple hundred thousand years might at some point over a 40 year marriage overcome the more rational thought that you really shouldn't cheat. [/quote]

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