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[quote=Anonymous]Ignore all the nasty people on here castigating you for noticing the unfairness, OP. You haven't said anything about it to anyone and you are trying to get past your resentment, so you're doing the best you can. You have a right to your feelings, and resentment is understandable. Especially when you're dealing with young kids and a tight budget, it can be hard to see someone else flit around with no responsibilities, funded entirely by parents who give you nothing. I think that you know that you're ultimately in the better position; one day your kids will grow up and you'll be able to travel and do all the things you want, and you'll be able to really appreciate your own independence and ability to succeed without the support. Nonetheless, of course it's going to be hard right now. I think you just need to accept that your feelings are valid while acknowledging that you wouldn't want her life, and block her on all social media. As mentioned by others, it would be a good idea to make sure you and your husband are on the same page about not taking over your SIL's support once her parents no longer can. Maybe you also want to ask your husband to mention setting up 529s for your kids that his parents could contribute to? In some families that may be presumptuous, but I know in mine it would be a welcome suggestion. Otherwise, there's not much you can do about it but grit your teeth and try to ignore it. [/quote]

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