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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Be happy the parents and sister don’t think you should be supporting her. We have that situation and it is so crazy. [/quote]

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OP, your MIL and FIL are enabling your SIL - your SIL will always have anxiety, because people bail her out, and that is what she is used to - she is not accustomed to solving her own problems. My SIL/MIL dynamics are the same - totally unhealthy, and MIL keeps enabling SIL.  SIL and MIL both have severe "anxiety", over which they bond (instead of getting help)- but in their case, it might just be laziness (I know that real anxiety exists).

Be grateful you are not SIL, seriously.  MIL takes care of everything for SIL - and SIL is sure to make the distinction, no matter how petty,  between "us" and them" - it a sh*tty thing to do.  Good people don't divide families. SIL even made sure that MIL gave future (SIL's DIL) an important ring from the family.  Kind of a big EFF YOU to our side - but we expected MIL and SIL to act that way.  Why would they change now and become nice, considerate, non selfish humans?  Won't happen.

As long as you remind yourself that MIL and SIL will always be spoiled, mean individuals - and that MIL's legacy is just that (she has NO idea how good she has it, thanks to FIL, in her old age) - it will keep the truth in perspective.  And when your kids ask, you can tell the the truth! MIL chooses her legacy - if it is negative, then so be it. MIL's choice :shrug:[/quote]

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