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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How old are your kids?  People are having kids much later in life especially if they have careers.  Your grandkids may still be coming but you need to give it some time.  Until all your kids have either said "we're not having kids" or reach mid to late 40s I wouldn't rule it out.  [/quote]

ages 33 (she's married) and 31 - have said no kids
age 34 - she is not dating and doesn't want to but does talk about children at some point.  Thinking about freezing eggs but has no money to do it. She just bought a house. 
age 35 - he would like to be in a relationship and have kids but it doesn't appear to be happening, or at least it is casually.

so I guess it  COULD happen later, but I think the odds are not good. [/quote]

Lots could still happen.  Come back in 10 years.  [/quote]

True, lots of people have a first in the late 30s (we had two after 35).

I'm curious though, do you 33 and 31 year old talk about why they don't want children? I'm hearing the same from friends who have kids in that age group and younger, so this is not unusual, and have to wonder what's going on?[/quote]

New poster here, 34, childfree. So many reasons. The general state of the world, climate change, finances. I am happily married but we cannot afford to buy a house. Daycare is absurdly expensive and we wouldn’t afford that either. I feel like having a child would be simultaneous with giving up retirement and working until I couldn’t walk anymore.

I don’t want all the grunt work that comes with being a parent. I am glad my parents already have grandchildren through my sibling, but sibling is very difficult and that relationship is tenuous. I feel bad that they don’t have a close relationship with their grandkids.

I have some worsening health problems that would make pregnancy a difficult or simply dangerous state for me.

Basically I think people who have kids should 101% want to be parents. You should be all in, or nothing. And I am not. [/quote]

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