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[quote=Anonymous]Hi, OP. I'm so sorry you are dealing with a breast cancer diagnosis and treatment while parenting a teen solo. My DS had cancer last year, we have teens, and it was one of the most difficult periods of my life to navigate DS' cancer treatment while parenting teens and trying to remain functional myself.

Here are some ideas for you to try for a few weeks to see if that helps the situation with your son:

* Call the school and make an appointment to talk to his guidance counselor. Don't do this over email. Explain you are a single parent in cancer treatment, and your son is struggling. Counselors are overworked, but this is a scenario that should get on their radar immediately. If he needs a 504 or an IEP (if he's raging at school, he might need help), the counselor can help with that.

* Ask for a check in with his therapist, as a PP suggested. The therapist should be able to update you on how he is doing.

* Are you in therapy or a support group yourself? The American Cancer Society has support groups, and (I believe) many virtual options. Some are even for family members.

* Call in all of your community/neighborhood support. Please put your own embarrassment aside and ask for help. I know it's hard, and I remember how long I waited to ask for help. I cried and cried the day I saw how many neighbors signed up to bring us meals (even a few neighbors I didn't know). I intend to spend the rest of my life repaying the kindness that was shown to me in that monumentally difficult period.

* If your financial situation allows you to outsource things, do that. Meals, groceries, laundry, and that sort of thing can all be outsourced. I had to get over the idea that I was perfectly capable of doing these things myself. Outsourcing and allowing friends and neighbors to help allowed me to rest and be a better version of myself.

I recognize not one of these suggestions relates to your son. I hope that you can try some of these things for a few weeks, and see if that helps stabilize things with your son. I would think you want to make sure you have tried everything before arranging other custody options for him.   [/quote]

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