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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No different than a parent who travels regularly for work and isn’t home at night [/quote]

Every week?

Besides, while that can be necessary, I can’t imagine anyone with a family would choose it unless they had to. And the Op has other options that likely aren’t terrible, just not her idea of perfect. [/quote]

This is OP.  You are right, we don’t have to do this.  However we do not want to retire in our current location, so this would be a short term situation to get us where we would ultimately want to be long term for retirement. I do not like where we are at currently for reasons I don’t want to go into here, and I am the impetus for this potential move if that helps. [/quote]

I’m still confused about the 2 year only thing. Is he going to retire in 2 years? I think you are making a lot of assumptions. I wouldn’t do it, personally. But I know people who are married to consultants who are gone 4 days a week and even then move their families around so it’s fine. Are you a SAHM? Are you really happy to be a single parent most of the time? I guess I’m really surprised to hear you are the driving force here. It sounds like you are not happy and are grasping at straws to change something. I don’t understand why you can’t move in 2 years? Also does your husband even want to do this? My DH works a lot but he would not be ok with seeing our kids so little and would really resent it if I tried to push him into this. It’s just all very strange [/quote]

This is OP.  I don’t think the “why” behind the two years before my spouse can be with me and the kids is germane to what I am asking.  What I am asking is if anyone has lived in this type of scenario before.  I’ve gotten some great responses so thanks to those that offered up their experiences, very helpful.  [/quote]

People are asking because you’re choosing this unnecessarily and they’re wondering if it’s likely to turn into an extended living apart scenario or if it’s absolutely finite. Advice will change if it’s definitely 2 years, probably 2 but possibly as long as 5, or could go on forever if we like it but we’re arbitrarily  planning on 2. Of course, it’s personal and you don’t have to share more than you want, but it’s not irrelevant.

After your update, I’d definitely advise against it. I’m shocked that your husband would be on board. It sounds like you want a single mom lifestyle during school time, fun dad weekend time, and him to foot the bill by working and maintaining two households, but none of the divorce drama. I love when DH travels for work and I get a chance to miss him, but that doesn’t sound like a good choice for the family to live apart if it’s not necessary. [/quote]

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