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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Every grandparent I know comments about the endless energy  of young children.  We relish the downtime. I guess you could wear them out like a puppy dog. Let’s go to the park, take a hike and then, off to the zoo.  Or, use your words and tell them the kids need/want some time to play on their own.  Are there other grandchildren? What are their expectations with them?[/quote]

OP here. Talk about pressure: ours are the only grandchildren within driving distance, and only biological grandchildren. They FT my SIL an and her kids every now and then, and only fly to Oregon to see them every few years. They have seen them exactly once since COVID. Other grandkids also don’t celebrate Christmas, so that heightens it with us. Grandkid performance pressure beyond. They walk on eggshells with SIL and her wife, and stomp all over us.[/quote]

What does the fact that your children are the only biological grandchildren have to do with anything?[/quote]
Not OP, but as the mom of the grandkids that were adopted and therefore not biological, my experience is that the attention towards nonbiological grandkids may not be as fierce.[/quote]

Oh gosh I’m sorry to hear that. My bio kids are not as fabulous for MIL as her daughters kids but thankfully that means I don’t have to spend as much time with her 😁[/quote]

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