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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DH and I don’t drink either. I think this can impact social life, or at least who you spend more time with, but it doesn’t dictate it. We both used to be big drinkers and remain friends with many of the same people but just don’t partake anymore.

I’m curious, what is the flow of conversation when you are talking to people, especially 1:1? Is it mostly an exchange of information - how was your winter break? What camp is your kid going to? Do you click with people? Have a moment where you are exchanging information and realize you both have the same attitude or approach to things and have a little connection moment? Have a moment where you realize you really like someone’s personality and want to hang out with them again?

My DH and I are not super social - meaning we don’t host a ton and we barely go out after 8pm. But I am very present with people 1:1. I ask questions, try to make a connection, remember people and their details, and am friendly. In return 95% of people are very friendly back. Sometimes this takes a year or 2 but I try to be on good terms with people. I am not a part of a mom group either, but I am friendly with enough moms and will reach out occasionally to coordinate things like classes or activities between our kids. My DH is such a homebody, but again we try to be very present with people when we are with them. I’m just wondering if there is a breakdown in how you are connecting with people in the moment… [/quote]

To add, I think I good question to ask yourself is, how do people feel after they’ve hung out with you or had a conversation? If they enjoyed it they will be happy to connect again, even casually bumping into each other at school. [/quote]

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