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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My children don’t have opinions on things I give. For example, they wear what I put out, no complaints. They eat what we provide. They don’t ask for things at stores.

So yes, incredibly rude for her to assert herself.

However, we operate as a children should be seen not heard perspective. Children are given too long of a leash today. [/quote]

Just out of curiosity, how old are these kids that you are laying out clothes for every day with no input, and who have zero input into what they eat? If you have tweens/teens, or even upper elementary kids, who still can't select food for themselves or pick out their clothes for the day and so so with reasonable judgment, you are failing as a parent. My 5 year old picks out her clothes and gets dressed on her own, and every day she manages to select an appropriate outfit that meets school uniform requirements, without my input. She can also pick out her own snacks (and knows to select healthy things and that "cookies" is not an acceptable snack) and order off a menu at a restaurant, and can decide for herself things like which cereal to have for breakfast or whether she wants cheese on her pasta or dressing on her salad. There are many things we decide for her, but the things you mention are actually the easiest places we've found to give her some agency so she can learn some basic life skills.

You might find that when you finally remove your child's "leash", as you put it, they don't know how to behave. They will need you to tell them what to do. At 12, at 18, at 26. This might not be the big win you think it is.[/quote]

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