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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. You all seem unanimous so I think maybe it’s a cultural thing. Im from a different country originally where kids wouldn’t do this. DD wouldn’t either but probably because of me. To the PP who said “ who takes kids to Starbucks?” I didn’t take them, hence pre ordering on the app. We did a cold weather outside activity then I thought getting s hot chocolate close by would be nice. It’s all in the same area. [/quote]

It is a UMC with parents that don’t say no thing.  My kids wouldn’t do this, but their absolutely have friends that do.  I have no problems telling them no.  [/quote]

The asking for an extra item, and especially the asking for an extra item with special instructions, is definitely an entitlement thing. That's a kid whose parents not only don't say no to whatever food or drink item they ask for, but will indulge lots of special requests and probably makes such requests themselves (when you find a kid whose a high maintenance orderer, there's a high maintenance ordering parent behind them, I promise). It doesn't occur to them that an adult might not have a boundless sum of money to spend on random treats for kids because their parents do indeed seem to have this.

Asking for an alternative item that costs the same or similar, though, is not an entitlement issue. That's just a person who has learned that it's better to ask for what you actually want than to accept a gift of something you don't want. Which I think is practical and useful. I would like my kid to have the confidence and presence of mind to speak up in a situation like that. [/quote]

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