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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Maybe just appreciate their intentions even if they interfere with your plan.[/quote]

I appreciate good intentions, but no, I don’t “appreciate” being given a huge chore, especially when I have lots going on in the kitchen and it is timed for certain things to come out at certain times, at the right temperature. I appreciate small things that I can either choose to set aside for later or set out now, but in the case of one guest who brought a hot dip that needed oven time *and expected to chop vegetables in my kitchen for it,* that really was a lot to have to wash a cutting board that was in use, find a knife, give her counter space, move things around in the oven, etc. I’m just surprised that more people don’t think that through and how that is burdensome to a host, but maybe they just don’t host a lot. -OP[/quote]

Team OP. It's really incredible what people are bringing to your dinner parties. Invite me! I'm not a great cook and promise I won't bring anything other than a hostess gift, if that. [/quote]

+1 It drives me insane when guests do this because I spend a lot of time and effort putting together a menu and.it can't really throw things off. Also I end up having too much food and having to throw a lot put at the end of the night. Most adult dinner parties don't need 2-3 desserts for example so if you have a beautiful cake prepared and someone brings their very elaborate pastry alot gets wasted at the end of the night.[/quote]

I agree. There’s also a level of “I’m trying to take over your party.” Like, if your host made a beautiful cake as mentioned above, the pastry is now competing for compliments and attention. The host now feels obligated to serve it, and the guests feel obligated to try both. If you want to host and serve your favorite appetizers or dessert or beverage, host your own dinner party, or wait for a potluck. Or ASK your hosts ahead of time.[/quote]

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