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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I have three full siblings and a similar family dynamic.  When I turned 18 my parents told me I was an adult and no longer would receive Christmas presents because they had to save resources for my younger siblings.  I'd come home for Christmas from college and watch my siblings open iPhones, laptops and dSLRs while I received nothing.  I'd purchase presents for each of them from my minimum wage job earnings.  They got me nothing.  It turns out that the rule only applied to me and my parents didn't cut any of my other siblings off at 18, just me.  My siblings are in their late 30s and still get nice presents from my parents.

It's still like that.  I treat my parents AND siblings when we go out to eat. My siblings are treated by my parents if they do something without me.  Why?  I don't know. My parents have always hated spending money on me.  I've been an obligation my whole life, while they lavish my siblings.

If I raise an issue I'm called greedy.  My options are to make peace with it or cut ties with my family.  They aren't going to change, but it hurts.  Over and over again it hurts.[/quote]
This is terrible! Sorry you didn’t get a better birth family. Like others, I’d minimize contact with these people.

OP, I feel for you too, but it sounds like you’ve been able to maintain a decent relationship with your extended family despite the inequities. Good for you and your full sister. Agree with others you should start focusing on cheaper events. I’d have no problem being blunt with your dad about the reasons why. [/quote]

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