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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here, thank you to everyone who responded.  They read these responses over the weekend and I think it helped them feel very supported knowing people out there actually cared about this issue.

Yesterday, they spoke to their guidance counselor who worked with the teacher to clarify the dress code.  The teacher is now saying she meant no disrespect and [b]only those who identify as boys vs girls need to wear the outfits...etc.[/b]

Not my favorite response, but my child feels good about it and plans on wearing pants (as well as several other girls who identify as girls) for their performance.  [/quote]

I’m glad your DD is happy, but I want to be clear that the teacher’s “fix” (“those who identify as boys versus girls need to
wear the outfits”) is still illegal discrimination under Title IX.  No teacher should be requiring kids to wear a certain outfit based on the way they identify (neither in terms of gender, sexuality or biological sex).

What the teacher can say is that there are two outfits to wear - one with pants and one with a skirt - and all students need to be wearing one of those two outfits - whichever they prefer.  Any student who feels like they will have trouble meeting the dress code should contact her and she will help to work something out. (This allows kids who cannot obtain or wear elements of the outfit to ask for support or accommodation.)[/quote]

This is the end of Title IX.  Your interpretation of it, you current interpretation of it, is taking it apart.  OP's DC may benefit but a lot of girls will no longer benefit from Title IX.  [/quote]

No. Just no.  You have some right wing apocalyptic view that if people are obligated not to discriminate on the basis of sex or gender, the world will fall apart.  Title IX helps all women. I know girls in sports who lack equal facilities and opportunities who are helped by Title IX. It helped my DD when the school was overly focused on bra straps showing and too short shorts to the extent girls were being denied class time for dress code violations. It helped when DD’s school had “slap ass week”.  It helps girls who have been raped or sexually assaulted or sexually harassed at school by teachers or peers.

Do you really think Title IX will fall apart because some women (both gay and straight) want to wear pants instead if a skirt? Or that one or two boys may wear a skirt?

I frankly wish that schools would worry less about gender policing and more about teaching reading and math.  The amount of time teachers and principals spent policing bra straps could have been much better spent fixing the atrocious math teaching.

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