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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Respect her wishes. She deserves to have some control for her remaining time on this planet [/quote]

Except she is undoubtedly going to push her elderly husband problems onto her children and reduce their happiness.[/quote]

But she is elderly now, and why does the responsibility of care only work in one direction (i.e., her giving to them)?

Why can't the  decide that she has earned this brief period of respite and they (who are young healthy and have incomes) can bear that burden for a while?[/quote]

NP- no I agree with the first poster that this will all fall on her kids. Usually elderly couples help each other through old age. They both go to doctor's appts together, they eat together and provide support. When the parents divorce, [b]the kids have to take time off work to travel to all the doctor's appts, they rearrange their schedules to make sure their parent gets dinner and they deal with a lot of crisis. [/b]I don't disagree that kids should help their parents, but normally kids are dealing with their own children who need their help even more. Is that what the grandparents want- to take time, money and attention away from the youngest generation?

I think instead that the elderly couple should come to a solution on their own. Travel by themselves, make friends, hire help. [/quote]

No, the kids don't have to do any of this.    Some adult kids DO do this because they want to, but there is no "have to" involved.   [/quote]

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