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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Could they stay married, but have separate places to live?[/quote]

My siblings and I had that conversation with them years ago. They could certainly afford it.  My mom has a lot of anger. I think she truly wants to hurt my dad and this is how she intends to do it. [/quote]

Wow. Imagine still stewing about “the child rearing” at 80, when it was multiple decades ago.[b] Your mom sucks[/b], OP. Sorry for your dad.[/quote]

Go ahead and blame the victim.  You have obviously not been in an abusive relationship because the anger and resentment it's not something you get over with time.  She's probably stayed this long so as not to burden the kids, but his decline is pushing her over the edge.  She's been abused and cheated on her whole life, and now is expected to be full time caregiver to her abuser.  Sounds like she protected the kids their whole lives... and OP is not exactly offering to step up and help, but rather wondering "what will happen" if her mother stops carrying this enormous burden.

Dad is the bad guy, not mom.  Abusers and cheaters suck. 
OP:  Give your mom some peace in her final days and coordinate your self for you dad to go to assisted living or whatever he needs.  Not saying the situation isn't bad for everyone, but the blame lies with dad, not mom.[/quote]

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