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[quote=Anonymous]A few things:
Do you work or are you a SAHM?  I ask because if he is naturally introverted and spends all day working with a team and you are naturally extroverted and spend all day alone or with kids, then OF COURSE you guys will be on different pages wrt weekends.  If you don’t currently have social outlets aside from your husband, definitely get some regular events set up weekly.  Volunteer, take a class, etc.  Even if you work, you can still try to do some of this to get your social needs met without relying on DH.

Secondly, it sounds like part of the issue is that you want to make memories as a family.  I think that is a separate issue from wanting to get out of the house or wanting to be social.  DH will probably never want to go on a big outing every weekend or have friends over every weekend, but you two can make a plan for ways to build family memories.  It really drove it home for my DH when I pointed out recently that there are only a few years left before they won’t WANT to hang out with us.  Now is our chance to build shared memories and interests.

But the memories can be made different ways.  We have certain shows we only watch as a family (right now our big one is Ultimate Beastmaster).  We do weekly family Brunch and take turns picking where to order from.  We have a game night about twice a month where we all put the phones away and play board games.  It sounds like you want to be the family that makes memories by traveling, but DH is less interested.  I travel solo with my kids often.  But we still have special activities that DH is always part of and they feel loved by and connected to their dad (and we get to travel without him being a stick in the mud)![/quote]

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