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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Looks like OP’s mom is on a roll with the last 3 posts. [/quote]

No, she's not, but I am. I don't know OP or her mom -- only what OP herself has posted. I cannot believe what passes for "toxicity" on DCUM. Such fools, to lose their own mothers over this stupid level of behavior.[/quote]

It's not a loss if the mom is unsupportive and critical.

If that upsets you, it's probably a good time for self reflection.[/quote]

Once again, threads about "boundaries" are always dominated by people giving advice that suits THEIR circumstances. OP spelled out exactly what her complaints were:

"DH and I have not done her bidding— not accepted money from her, did not agree to spend every Thanksgiving with her (she tried to demand it), do not require the kids to speak with her every week (they do not enjoy taking to her because she’s nosy) and opted not to live near her. We’ll, things came to a head and I told her it’s time to stop if she wants a good relationship with us. It’s been crickets for days."

I don't think most parents of adult kids, or most adult kids dealing with parents, would find offering money, wanting to spend thanksgiving together or wishing they lived near each other to be upsetting. Sorry, those are pretty standard things. It's no wonder it's been crickets for days from her mother's end. She's sick of the dramatic reactions to everything she does. I really can't blame her -- again, based on what OP herself wrote not you.[/quote]

Forgot to add, wanting to speak to her grandchildren. I highly doubt the grandchildren object because the grandmother is nosy. Most children LOVE when people take an interest in them. That's what a grandmother should be doing -- being nosy. But hey, if crickets works for you and your kids, then enjoy. [/quote]

Lol, you are even cherry picking the post. We can all see the original OP. We know what you are leaving out.

Pro-tip PP, this is what you do in real life to convince yourself that you are right and everyone else is wrong. It is why your kids don't like to talk to you. [/quote]

Please explain. You can leave out explanations for your fantasies because they mean nothing to anyone but you. But please explain how I am cherry picking. I pasted what OP wrote and responded to each complaint.

Please explain.[/quote]

PP I am generally of the same view as you and made a similar post, but you did cherrypick in yours.  You left out the negative comments the mother made about the neighborhood, school, and religion....[/quote]

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