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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Wow I'm impressed this has never happened to you. It's happened to me a handful of times. Once when I had food poisoning, once when I had a bad reaction to medication that made me violently ill, and a couple times when I've had debilitating migraines (I have chronic migraines that are medicated but they have worsened over the years and I've had a couple that were so bad that I became disoriented and lost vision).

My spouse has taken over each of those times, including taking sick leave from work if necessary. Luckily his work is pretty amenable to this as long as it's just occasional. And it definitely evens out between the two of us because I'm the WFH parent with the flex schedule who handles the vast majority of our kid's sick days or random days off from school, plus does heavy lifting to fill in the gaps in the summer.

If I were a single parent I'd have to live near family who could help or employ a PT nanny or something because with my migraine issues and some bad luck, it seems inevitable that there are days when I just can't function. At least until kids are old enough that you could just ask a neighbor or fellow parent to help get them to and from school or maybe send them to a friend's house for a Saturday while you recovered. Maybe like 7 or 8? My kid is 5 and these illnesses all happened when she was 2-4, so she needed more care than that and I would not have felt safe just having her home with me while I was that unwell.[/quote]

I had to look at the time stamp because I thought I had written this! I also have chronic migraines that can range from take a pill and be better to in patient hospitalization. It was especially bad during my pregnancies when I could not take some meds. Aside from one horrible instance where I literally could not care for our child I have generally handled because my DH also works a lot and doesn’t think people will understand if he leaves for “just a migraine”.  It’s actually been a issue in our marriage at times but is getting easier as our kids are older. I had a unrelated and very intense medical issue when one child was very young and I ended up in the ICU for a while. In some ways that was easier because it was kind of a no brainer that he had to step up. I hope you stay healthy, OP but in general these things work out even if it’s ugly. I am very happy that my oldest can now call for help if necessary (thank goodness it has never been necessary but I am glad it’s possible).[/quote]

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