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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I regret having them early, in a way. It wasn't planned, but I used to be totally okay with having them early because I thought I'd have all this free time when I was relatively young. But now that they are teenagers I don't really want that free time, I want to be with my kids more.

[b]One thing I will say is that there seems to be this dynamic where couples who have kids after 35 are taking care of young kids at the same time they need to ramp up their careers and have a little less energy, and it seems like a confluence of factors makes marriage really hard around the toddler/early elementary years.[/b] At least that didn't happen to us (but I recognize it doesn't happen to a lot of people anyway). [/quote]

This is true but because I have one group of friends who had kids in their mid-late twenties and another group who had friends in mid-late thirties, I see that the marital hard times hit at the same age, regardless of age of kids.  I really thought "wow 5th grade seems to break a lot of marriages!" until my later friends had kids older.  When mom is 40-45, it's basically a happiness trough, and eldercare responsibilities start to get heavier, and if there's any kind of resentment about work balance at home it all hits the fan.[/quote]

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