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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's just how the 40s and 50s are OP, no matter where you live. Especially if you have an illness or difficult spouse, difficult child and difficult elderly parents. [/quote]

Does it get better? [/quote]
DP... I don't feel this way in my 40s/50s.  I'm 52.  But then, we made some changes to reduce my stress.  It was hard fought, on my side, to make these changes.

IMO, it's expectations.  I think too many people have unreasonbly high expectations, myself included.  A wise man once told me that the problem with high expectations is that you will inevitably be disappointed. How right he is.

I had this conversation with a friend in her early 30s, engaged, no kids yet -- you cannot have it all. It's. Too. Hard.  And you will be disappointed, feel resentful and be angry.

Something has got to give -- either your career or your ability to be a fully present parent.

OP's friends are struggling with trying to have a great career and be an engaged parent according to their definition of what being an "engaged parent" means.  Or they gave up their career to be an engaged parent. And that's a hard thing to accept.

Type A personalities have it the worst (me). You are used to giving it your all, being perfect, and you are finding that you cannot do either well.  That's a hard thing to swallow for Type As.

I eventually embraced that I cannot do or have it all.  And I'm much happier now.[/quote]

I am really struggling with this. I would appreciate any suggestions for concrete daily activities that got you to this place.[/quote]

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