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[quote=Anonymous]Sorry, but this whole gifting grooming narc thing is not the only reason. I had a falling out with my sibling after one of our parents died. It was already a strained relationship, but as the only aunt to my teen niece and nephew (who I had a good relationship with) I didn't send bday gifts to manipulate them. I sent them because I always had and so they wouldn't feel punished just because I don't speak to their parent! One kid responded well to this and we have a positive relationship esp now that she's older. The other one went AWOL so I stopped reaching out and sending gifts. So there you have it, one of them responded in kind and the other decided to cut off contact -- I respected the latter's boundary and stopped reaching out. I had aunts and uncles that peeled off throughout my own childhood because of our parents (yes, estrangement runs in the family) and it really hurt. I still feel sad about it as an adult! I never wanted these two kids to think I no longer cared, so I simply followed their lead. That's not narc behavior, that's me trying to do the right thing.  [/quote]

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