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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.  Not a troll post.  Thanks for the feedback.  It's complicated.  And I'm in therapy.  [/quote]

It is complicated. I also agree that you are getting a lot of very nasty responses that aren't helpful, but I do think it's important to realize that the situation as described is really unusual, and that your kids needs and stability need to come first.

If the kids know their co-parent as their father then how are you going to explain this to them? Do you think the co-parent will agree with the name change? I think it's very likely that legally he is considered their father no matter how you define the relationship. Do you want it in court/public records that your children have no biological relationship to him?

Bringing up the financial arrangements as a point in your favor is odd.

I think your time right now would be better spent with a plan for the next decade. At some point your children should be told the truth about their origins, but I'm not sure 8 years old is that point.[/quote]

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