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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]SIL is having a destination wedding at an international location. Flight and resort will cost each couple a little under ~$4K to attend. SIL’s parents and a couple siblings cannot afford this price and are reaching out to us to help pay their way. We have a good salary but have some expenses of our own and cannot afford to pay an extra $8k for family members to attend, but DH won’t hear it from me- he says everyone needs to be there and “so be it” if we have to stretch to make this woek. I think it’s inconsiderate of SIL to be doing a destination wedding in the first place when she knows several family members don’t have the money to go… if having family there is important to her.

Has anyone been in this situation? What is the right thing to do? I’m so uncomfortable about this but don’t want to bother the couple getting married.[/quote]

Outrageous for SIL and for relatives to ask you for money and  beyond outrageous for your DH to fund their trip.  They should have a party for them when they come home from honeymoon.

I would give money in a heartbeat for something serious but a wedding is not serious and I would not do without anything for my family to pay for something so frivolous .[/quote]

Read. SIL never asked for anyone to pay.[/quote]

She asked everyone to pay. Sounds like it wasn’t well thought out. Should have eloped. [/quote]

It kind of sounds like she is eloping? She obviously knows people can't afford to come. She's not demanding anyone come, nor asking her brother to pay for her parents or siblings. She's having the wedding she wants. It's not about you. [/quote]

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