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[quote=Anonymous]So like another pp while I agree many of these mothers have major boundary issues, they seem light compared to what I see in my mother for bpd

- screaming for 5 hours plus on a regular basis
 - sending long ranting emails that take 3 hours to write about personal details of marriage and sending to children and family members
 - talking about wishing she could be dead, so depressed she wishes she was dead but can't commit suicide because against church teachings
 - multiple instances of physical abuse to children - "spanked" with belts, metal spoons, kicked with shoes, slapped in face, whacked back of head despite no behaviors, throwing oldest son on floor and beating, grabbing child by hair and slamming into hard wood chair. Assaults have continued into adulthood and occasionally on spouse
 - writing emails to mother in law and sister in laws telling them they are not Christian because they talk about their new homes too much and that is sinful
 - writing email before 2 child out of 5 (ie only one of her kids had been .married)  wedding saying choosing not to be mother of bride today but prefer to be with grandchild
 - alienating children from family members because they all gossip about her
 - paranoia about being gossiped about by everyone - everyone out to get her
 - ending long-term friendships because people enjoy watching NFL games as a way of socializing and that is not her
 - extreme insecurity - learning social cues from adult children 
 - day of husband's older brother funeral screaming at husband he didn't do her laundry correctly for 2 hours before funeral
 - trying to kick 25 year old child out of family forever on Christmas eve for not peeling a potato correctly, literally kicking child out of house when visiting from out of state, needed to be told by children and spouse not acceptable
 - black and white thinking applied to most aspect of life
 - becoming more fundamental in Christian beliefs as aging

I could go on. I think the suicide idealation, rage, manipulation and paranoia combinded with a lack of hallucinations push me to think she has bpd. Of course she will not go to therapy and every therapist she has had she literally has scheduled a last appointment to tell why they are wrong for suspecting she may have issues, along with written "evidence: I do suspect she was molested as young child by parent who she now idealizes, but no evidence minus
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