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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We go out to dinner quite frequently with another couple. Generally my husband, the other husband, and I just get an entree, but the other wife often gets an appetizer. When asked if she’d like it to come out first or with the rest of the food, she always requests that it come out first. This leads to the rest of us sitting around watching her eat as we wait for our dinner. I think this is fairly oblivious behavior and I’m a little over it. I think between friends I can say nicely, “Frances, do you mind if your app comes with the rest of the food? I’m pretty hungry!”  My husband thinks this is rude and I shouldn’t say anything. I think if stated cheerfully it’s a perfectly polite request and will gently nudge her to realize that maybe making everyone else wait for their food isn’t the most thoughtful behavior. What do you think?[/quote]

Team OP and I don't get the hostility.  It is the woman ordering an appetizer as a meal and not eating at the same time as others who is rude.

And, this is a couple you go out with frequently, therefore, a friend.  I think you can privately ask the friend, when you are not at dinner, if there is a reason they do this.  Then use the "When you _____ I feel _______" statement.  "Francis, I am wondering why you ask for your food to come first, instead of eating with the rest of us. When you order your meal to come before the others at the table, I get hungry watching you eat, and then feel awkward having you watch the rest of us eat."[/quote]

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