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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think this is giving a ton of credit and blame to parents and families of origin for how adults act on both ends. People from "functional" families with empathetic parents should be wise and empathetic themselves? Maybe, but some people with nice parents are jerks, and some people learn empathy through dealing with hardship. Often, I think people are more compassionate when they have an understanding of the struggle, having it easy can create blind spots.

[b]Also, I don't think functional/dysfunctional is a binary[/b]. [/quote]

Really good point. I have great, loving parents who gave us a lot of opportunities plus a safe, stable home and fun childhood. But they have their flaws and came from families with major dysfunction. One of my siblings became addicted to drugs as a young teen and it completely changed our trajectory as a family. I curdle at the label "dysfunctional family". We had all the "right" things in place and were never abused or lacking love, empathy, resources, good intentions. A perfect storm of many things combined to make us what we are today and I've stopped being shocked by the judgement we receive. I myself try to start from empathy regardless of anyone's circumstances. I know it can be tough.[/quote]

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