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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You need therapy. I have close female friends some I've known since childhood and others I have met and kept along the way.

What has been key is the following:

mutual loyalty and respect
non competitiveness
genuine interest in each other's well being
common interests
neither party is needy[/quote]

The neither party is needy thing is key. [/quote]

It is definitely. I wrote that list. I have a young family and some medical issues. I cannot become 2nd mom to a new friend who suddenly needs to run everything past me and get my approval. I am sure some people would love to be able to do that, fulfill that empty space in someone's life I just don't have the energy, mental or physical.[/quote]

Great list.  And being non-competitive is important too.  [/quote]

To me this is the most important. I cannot believe how many women I've met who in the first or second meeting are trying to establish some pecking order through money, socioeconomic status, house size. I'm in the outer suburbs and over half of the women immediately find a way to insert this type of stuff in the conversation. I moved to a new neighborhood several years ago and the first woman to approach me as a friend told me about the expensive cars her family owns in her first or second breath. She invited me into her house and told me every single way her has was a grade above mine, literally bump out by bump out. This isn't particularly unusual where I live.  The people I am talking about are not young, we're all at least in our 50s.[/quote]

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