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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]They think they do but unless you’ve had kids, not babysat or nannies, you will never know how much work it is on a daily basis. [/quote]

I see the opposite a lot too.  People with young kids, who apparently didn't do anything hard before the kids came along so they think it's the hardest thing ever, not recognizing that teenagers also need a lot of work and time, or that being or caretaking for the elderly is, in itself, also exhausting and time consuming, and coming to the conclusion that the world should evolve around them because they are doing the hardest thing ever.

Having healthy young kids was hard, but it's not the hardest thing ever like people make it out to be. [/quote]

Exactly.  Some people don't get that it isn't that hard for most of us.  The responsibilities are unrelenting, sure, so 24/7 you have to be aware but there is great joy in being parents and, honestly, at some point it is like breathing and you don't even have to think about it.

So, yes, it is hard for THEM but that's because of them, not anything else.  My brother and sister-in-law, for example, have 2 kids.  You would think that they are building a rocket ship to go to the moon using grains of sand.  The two of them literally don't understand planning ahead, setting up routines, working together cooperatively, training the children, etc.  So their house is always a wreck, the children are completely wild and they have no friends because the chaos is just too much for any sane people to deal with.  They are constantly complaining about how no one understands how hard their lives are.  What they don't understand is that if they stopped running around insanely and set up routines and planned ahead, their lives would be immeasurably improved and the children's behavior would also become better.  The kids are acting out because their parents are too distracted and the kids are throwing themselves into the chaos.

Anyway, it is frustrating when you talk with the parents like OP.  They just don't see that they are the problem, not the kids.  [/quote]

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