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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t understand this notion that we we shouldn’t judge.[/quote]

To me it's a matter of degrees.

I judge people sometimes by thinking "ok, that's not how I want to parent or arrange my life." That's a judgement, but it's not a harsh one. I'm not saying they should even do anything differently, just thinking to myself that I want to do things differently.

But I think a lot of judgments of moms are vocalized and are stuff like "she is too hands on at the playground, she should let her kid be more independent." Comments like that get an eyeroll from me because this is so freaking nitpicky about someone else's parenting. Like sure, maybe she could be "fostering independence" more. But if she's more hands off and her kid won't take turns on the slide or starts eating dirt, you'll judge her for that, too. There's a lot of judgement of moms that is very "damned if you do, damned if you don't." The whole WOHM and SAHM "debate" is a great example -- no matter which side you land on, someone out there will criticize you for it. It's a no-win. That kind of judgment is pointless and toxic and there is WAY too much of it.[/quote]

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