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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As the parent who would be offering to pay—just let them pay.  We have friends who we subsidize for things that would be too expensive for them to do because spending time with nice people we like is much more important than the money.[/quote]

Would you be offended or embarrassed if you suggested something, thinking you would pay, and then they did?[/quote]

NP. Offended, no. Embarrassed, maybe a bit. Mostly worried that since the proposal was my idea, I had inadvertently made them feel pressured into paying for their child to join in when they hadn't planned on spending money that way.

OP, you've offered to pay twice and she's turned you down. I think continuing to push it risks becoming tacky and off-putting. It's uncomfortable to feel beholden to someone but one of you is going to end up feeling uncomfortable here no matter what. I would try to reciprocate in another way, by inviting their child on different outings or whatever. [/quote]

I can see how one would feel worried in the way this PP is expressing.  But that is when you say straight out that you are fine paying, it’s a great idea, let’s sign them up. No one has to be embarrassed but the person who does not want someone else paying for their kid should not be forced to be uncomfortable any more than the person offering to pay should be uncomfortable. Why isn’t insisting on paying when someone has twice asked for the details on paying be ok but stating that you want to pay for the activity is not? Why should one person’s comfort matter more? Why can’t they just communicate clearly?[/quote]

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