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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm going to be crass to try to get this point across: we have a LOT of family money. Obscene amounts. Paying for a semi-private horseback riding lesson for my child and a friend or something along those lines, is not a blip on our financial radar. We don't give it a thought. We're not working your child into some budget. We're not cutting anything out to fit them in. We don't give it a second thought. If you think your friend might be in our situation, let them pay. If you want to drive, fine. Continue with your basketball and spaghetti. A good friendship is more important than evening out who spent what on whom.[/quote]

But you are only seeing this from your POV.  That’s great you have a lot of money and you don’t even notice when you pay for an expensive activity. Other people don’t have a lot of money and do notice and you should respect that they may not want you paying for everything even if you don’t care about the cost.  [/quote]

But [b]how is this different from [/b]us serving sushi to a friend and the friend liking it so we always get it when that friend comes over, and when our kid goes to the other kid's house they get spaghetti-o's and happily eats it. Adults talk about how there's this divide between income brackets, which obviously there is, but when they encourage their kids to notice it like OP is trying to do, they're widening the divide.[/quote]
It just is. I really find it hard to believe that you grew up with a lot of generational wealth and you don't understand this. Serving a guest foods that they like is good manners, and it has nothing to do with how much that food costs. Drawing attention to the fact that you have more wealth than a friend/guest is not good manners, no matter what your intention. There are ways to offer to pay that don't remind the other person that you are wealthier than them.[/quote]

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