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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would agree with your initial reaction, OP.  But then, we are the middle class family in this scenario. For an occasional outing, I am ok with the other family paying, even for a more expensive option that they choose (e.g., taking the kids skiing for a day and paying everything including a semi-private lesson rather than a group lesson). For a regular activity, no.  It makes your child’s participation depend on the other family.  I would consider it a debt.

If I couldn’t afford it, I wouldn’t do it. But if you are leaning toward letting the other family pay, at the very least, as a PP mentioned, I would insist on doing all the driving.[/quote]

I can afford it.  I'm just not sure if fighting to do so is obnoxious or expected.  [/quote]

If you can afford it, then how is this different than the other scenarios you describe where you and other parents sign your kids up and everyone pays their way?  Is it because the other parent assumed she would pay? Is it because they are rich and the parents of your kids other friends aren’t? Are you just trying not to offend?

If you are uncomfortable with them paying, then say great, let’s sign the kids up and then you pay. Why do you think there would be fighting? 
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It's different because when I said "send me the link so I can pay" she got all flustered and was very insistent that I didn't need to pay.

In other circumstances, when a parent says "does your kid want to sign up for the same week of camp as mine so they can carpool?"  I say "ooh that sounds great, send me a link so I can register!"  and then they send me a link.  [/quote]

Then address her being flustered. It’s nice of you to want to save her embarrassment or discomfort but I agree with a PP that that is separate from who pays. I would pay for it myself and figure out how to assure her that you are comfortable with that so she should be comfortable too. I wouldn’t let her discomfort drive my behavior wrt paying for the activity.
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This is where my camp analogy kinda falls apart, because I can't just go online and pay myself because I don't have the info.  She is proposing that they get on the schedule of a certain instructor that the kids apparently liked.  I don't know which one, or what time slots are available.  Like if it was actually camp, I'd probably say "Oh, I went ahead and signed him up!"

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