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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]NP. This thread has not been helpful so far!

How on earth are you supposed to get through this period of time without flotation devices when you're kid can't yet swim? Mine is in lessons but it's not clicking yet. I am super vigilant at the pool and actually feel like my DH is very vigilant as well, but we are human and can't operate at 100% max vigilance every second, so we were going to use the puddle jumper for "free swim" time this summer so that we can relax a little during at least some of our pool time.

I get the argument that it gives kids a false sense of security but doesn't it make more sense to use it so that parents can get a freaking break, and then just be extremely vigilant when they aren't wearing it (even if out of the pool)? I just don't think "watch them ever single second and never stray far enough away where you couldn't instantly yank them out of the water" is a reasonable expectation, unless the plan is to spend very little time at the pool, which is also not a great way to get your kid swimming.

Can someone explain this one to me?[/quote]

I swear I am not a Mommy martyr, but no, you don't get to relax at the pool. Relax somewhere else, or build in time to go to the pool alone. Drowning can happen so, so quickly. Even with flotation devices. They can deflate, or fall off, or be taken off, or even with a vest haven't you ever seen a child sort of tilt to the side and not be able to self-correct? You really do need to be watching every second. Yes, it is exhausting.[/quote]

Also not a mommy martyr but yeah, you don’t get to relax at the pool. You might not even have fun at the pool because it’s so much work. I feel like this is something that no one told me about having kids, seriously: The pool will suck for a decade[/quote]

I’m sorry pp but I have to agree. I read it’s better to use an actual life vest as they are far more reliable than puddle jumpers which are not recommended generally by folks that study this kind of thing. But even so you just absolutely do not get to relax in the way you’re discussing by a pool with a kid ages 3/4.

It sucks but it’s just not an activity to do if you want relaxation. Or you take turns but you are VERY specific about it, verbal hand off with your spouse and you both have to be equally vigilant and get it.

The highest risk time is a party with lots of adults around. I just avoid rentals that have a pool with them for this exact reason. I want to relax at vacation and with two kids 4 and under having a pool there is just a risk and then I have to have my eye on kids all the time. I’d rather just take it out of the equation. I was a kid that did competitive swim and spent my summers at the pool, I so look forward to the days my kids can just be a fish and we can hang all day around water but it just can’t be when your kids are this age [/quote]

I will add thougu im not sure it will suck for a decade like pp said. If your kid is 8 and on swim team and a pool with lifeguards.. I’m not sure the average parent is staying VIGILANT all the time, that seems overkill. Yes water is always risky, good swimmers drown. People also fall down grates in the sidewalk and die but we still let our kids walk on the sidewalk. Ok bad example because water is way more dangerous haha but you get the point, there is a point where in supervised pools I think people with strong swimmers let their guard down more[/quote]

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