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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You have to toilet train for nighttime, did you just skip that part of the process?[/quote]

WTF are you talking about?  I did nothing to toilet train my kids at night.  We toilet trained them, and then they naturally stopped peeing at night.  Which is what happens as most bodies mature a bit.  For some kids, it's takes a long time.  There is no "training", only mitigation straegies.  The kid is asleep.  It's not a conscious choice that they are making.  Shame does not fix it!  Surprise![/quote]

Thank you. My kid is younger than OPs but I am gearing myself up for being in the same boat because I had nighttime accidents into middle school and pediatrician said there's a strong genetic component.

My parents night trained me, by the way -- I still had nighttime accidents because my body simply would not wake me up to go. My parents absolutely did shame me -- I got used to stripping the bed and washing the sheets myself, making it back up myself, before going to bed, sometimes while my parents angrily watched over me saying stuff like "see, this is what happens, we should all be asleep". Even these "consequences" did not help me. In fact, I feel pretty confident they made it worse because I think in retrospect I was so anxious about sleeping and using the bathroom at night that this went on for years longer than it would have if my parents had simply been understanding and used a different solution.[/quote]

That’s called bad parenting, do better for your children and nighttime train them the right way. Accidents might still happen but it won’t be every single night and you won’t need pull ups for years on end.[/quote]

You get that my parents nighttime trained me "right away", right? Like exactly what you are suggesting. And I still had accidents all the time. And as it went on they got frustrated and tried to shame me into not wetting the bed. Which is what happens when people get it in their heads that if a child is wetting the bed past age 3 or 4, it must be a choice they are making and just need to be broken of.

When you tell parents "just train them right away and then they won't have accidents, or not that often, and it will be done," you are setting up parents whose kids will continue to have accidents regularly, for year, for failure. You are telling them "oh you must not have done it right."

What you don't understand is that your kids trained quickly and easily and there were few accidents. Not all parents have your experience. Stop acting like an expert based on your experience with 1-2 kids. It's tiresome.[/quote]

Your parents shamed and berated you, that’s not part of good nighttime training or ever good parenting. My experience is based on hundreds of children, not 2, and I tell parents training may take a couple months and accidents might still happen. The point is that they get rid of nighttime diapers. [/quote]

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