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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think week on week off plans are a problem. I think kids need the stability of one home, and to feel part of the day to day most of the time.

I think 50/50 splits might be great for some parents (a week off to do what they need/socialize/date whatever, regular contact with the kid) but what is the benefit to any kid? I just think it's a lot to put on kids, that they will spend their childhood moving every week and never really belong anywhere.

But these are just my thoughts that may be totally off base so am wondering others thoughts and experiences. My kids are solely with me, I'm not wondering for legal purposes, just wondering.[/quote]

I didn't read any other responses after your post OP, because I wanted to give our family's experience without being annoyed/upset/angered/judged by other responses (because people tend to respond to posts about this subject with "THIS IS WHAT IS BEST AND ONLY THIS").

In our case, DS wanted/still continues to want 50/50 every other week with myself and ex-DH. That could change at any time and if it does, we would all sit down and talk about it.

Would I want DS with me 100% of the time? YES. I didn't choose 50/50 because I wanted every other week to "date or have fun". We chose what was best for our child which is to spend quality time with both parents and that was lead by open discussions with DS.

Ex-DH moved out and lives 10min away. I drop off at school every day no matter who's house DS is at, ex-DH picks up everyday no matter who's house DS is at. So the only days DS doesnt see either one of us in during the other parents' weekend. The only thing he brings back and forth to each house is his school backpack/school laptop which he has to bring to and from school daily anyway. He has his own set of school uniforms and clothes, toiletries, video game set ups etc. at each house and there is no need to feel like a nomad.

It's all about what works for each family. There is no "right" answer or arrangement. [/quote]

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