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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We did not do that. I moved with the kids 45 minutes away. I could not have afforded a big house in the suburbs near my ex. Even with where I moved he was giving me money for two years, on top of child support. We always knew we would do the 80's model of Weekend Dad every other weekend. On the weekends he was not getting the kids he had them on Wednesdays from 3 (or whenever school let out) to 8pm (9pm when they were older and could stay up later).

I'd never even heard of the 50/50 thing until years later, and then once I did, asked the kids if they'd be interested in trying that, maybe over the summer to start. Both individually emphatically didn't want it. The closest we've ever gotten is when they have two weeks off school, doing one week with me and one week with him.[/quote]

They probably said no to make you happy.  [/quote]

Lol, highly doubt it - they know they are free to say whatever they want and have proven that. [/quote]

St [b]kids tell their parents what they want to hear[/b].  If you make comments verbally or nonverbally kids see and hear that and naturally want to plase. It’s sad you stopped their relationship with the other parent.   [/quote]

That's for little kids. Not older kids. And they have a great relationship with their dad. Weird  to assume a kid can only have a relationship with someone if they live with them 50% of the time.  So they have zero relationship with their  teachers, coaches, friends, aunts, uncles, neighbors, etc., because they don't live with those people? [/quote]

A parent isn't comparable to all those people named.  If your kids only have limited visitation they may spend more time with those folks than their parent.  Its a very superficial relationship to only see your Dad a few times a month for dinner, etc. and not spend time actually living with them.  You can pretend  otherwise, but you are hurting your kids for your selfish needs.[/quote]

Guess you missed where I said they live with their father every other weekend. Never mind the holidays and summers, etc. And yeah, I'll go ahead and be selfish by removing myself from an abusive environment, without feeling guilty about that for even a second.[/quote]

Every other weekend is a visit, that is not living with him.  This isn't about you, this is about the kids.[/quote]

Look, you obviously have your agenda, that nothing less than 50/50 is satisfactory to you. Get over it. Sorry that you can't conceive of the idea that different routines work for different families. You write as if you think your posts will inspire me to change our entire family structure. Not gonna happen. Live with it. [/quote]

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