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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Make them attend? Absolutely not, you can’t make anyone do anything. You tell your family about all events and if they want to show up great, if not don’t sweat it.[/quote]

Extremely weird approach to parenting. Do you also take this approach to school? "Listen, Larlo, school's at 8. If you want to go, let me know and I'll give you a ride. If 3rd grade just doesn't appeal to you today, whatever. Up to you."

Part of parenting is setting values and expectations. I don't expect my kids to attend every single family event, but one of our values is to support each other, even sometimes when it's inconvenient. If one of my kids decided they just didn't want to go to any of their sibling's events because it was boring or something, I would absolutely make them go and we'd also be talking about what it means to support a loved one and why sometimes your personal preference is not the most important thing.

And I'm not even huge on family as obligation. But this is an area where I think you can help kids build up an investment in one another that will carry over to when they are adults. You have to encourage it going both directions, and also model what support/investment looks like with your own behavior.[/quote]

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